The other day I met up with a dear friend of mine that I hadn't seen in a while. Life had been crazy for the both of us and so we didn't have the time or energy to mix and mingle. This year had come with a lot of turbulences and losses in the form of changes. Some expected and others came as a surprise that pulled the rug out right from under us. So it was time for some friendly faces and good conversation. She had lost a lot of weight. She said it was due to the stress and I knew exactly what she meant. What struck me during the evening we spent together is that it was so easy for us to just fall right back into our routine and funny conversation. Her laughs and jokes were hilarious and contagious and in no time it was as if my problems had shrunk in the face of such joy. Even though this year was so chaotic and stressful in many ways we didn't loose our sense of humor. It was as if no time had passed. Humor is the only thing that keeps me going sometimes. Like my life boat amongst the wreckage of my life. Growing up in my family if all else failed we always resorted to humor and sarcasm. It was sort of like: "Well if you can't beat 'em make fun of 'em." And that's what we did. We joked about how we would celebrate the end of this year like none other.
Later that night as I went to bed I realized that these "negative" experiences were actually the reason for our splendid witty humor. Life wasn't easy growing up but it made me resilient and rich with stories. My life has never really been boring. If that means I have to go through tough times and experience fear and pain, well then so be it. I would rather experience life fully than live a half life. Yeah this year had been a roller coaster of emotions and I felt each and everyone of them intensely to the core but I would rather feel too much than too little!
The scars we have from all the pain and misery are a testament to that. If the scars are deep so was the love. If you feel pain deeply that also means you have loved deeply. Only through the challenges we are faced with can we truly discover our own greatness. For some it may be courage or compassion. For others it may be ingenuity or creativity. For my friend and I it's our humor and the ability to find joy even amongst the most devastating ship wrecks.