The Good, The Bad and the (real) Ugly
Depression, anxiety and other mood dis-orders are like an epidemic sweeping the industrialized nations. More people than ever are experiencing some form of depression or anxiety in their lives now. What is even more frightening, but not at all surprising, is that more and more children are actually diagnosed with these dis-orders. I am not one for labeling people but I can certainly attest from personal experience that it is very easy to slip into these moments. Depression especially is something I can relate to. Almost every person I meet has had their fair share of this at some point or another in their lives. These last few months were especially challenging for myself and many of my clients. I have talked about changes coming and shifts being made for years now and I have actively worked on myself during that time. Yet little did I know that it could actually get worse! Depression as well as anxiety are like silent killers; like a virus that slowly infects every part of your life over a long period of time. By the time you realize what is happening it is already too late. It suddenly hits you like a brick and you feel unprepared to handle the situation. Yes there were signs, moments of discontent yet we brush them off and distract ourselves with temporary things of pleasure to help us get out of “our funk”.
What I have learned these past few months however is that bad days can really be a blessing in disguise sometimes. Not only do we learn so much about ourselves during tough times but also how would we know the good ones if we don't have any bad ones to compare them to? We truly see beauty and love on a much deeper level if we have experienced pain, fear and suffering in some shape or form in our lives before. We start to appreciate the little things in life more and we stop sweating the small stuff. Because… “ Hey I have seen worse! It really isn’t such a big deal.”
There will always be good and bad days. That’s life! The trick is to have the good ones outweigh the bad ones. There is a difference however between having a bad day when you are living your truth as compared to having a bad day living a life that is not in accordance with who you really are. As we move into the summer I hope you are having more good ones than bad ones. The energies are calming down more and more now. The mercury retrograde is over and soon the others will follow. But remember if you are struggling, happiness is not something that will just come to you, you have to make it happen. You have to break your routines and get out there. Get together with friends like you have been meaning to. Don’t be afraid to open up and share your struggles, you might be surprised to find out your friends are in similar shoes. Try new things to bring in new energies and to express yourself creatively in ways you have never done before. Live your life! You have to be present in order to do that. Life is not going to just fall into your lap. We can get stuck in our routines and comfort zones so much so that over the years we end up loosing our identity and who we want to be. Life happens so to speak and that’s ok but always make a point of coming “back home” to yourself and do the things that nurture your unique and creative expression of self. Life can certainly be effortless but let’s face it we all have our problems and shit we deal with on a daily basis that sometimes life does not just flow that easily. That’s when you have to make it happen. Happiness is a choice. What do you choose today?