Acceptance vs. Judgement
This month has been a roller coaster of emotions for many of my friends and family including me of course. We are currently experiencing not only one planet in retrograde but several as well as two full moons in one month. As a result we are experiencing an influx of energies that bring all sorts of emotional things to the surface for us to re-evaluate. The universe is asking us to do a complete relationship...
...overhaul. However this is mostly pertaining to the relationship you have with yourself! For the next few months you have the opportunity to work on your self-worth and fall back in love with yourself. As a result all of your other relationships will get the chance to heal and blossom as well.
Although conservative in many ways, I live in a very progressive and young community here in Colorado Springs. Things have changed over the years in the ways we look at health and healthy living. These days we live in a world of self help trail blazers, healing pioneers, do gooders and better mom’s bloggers that try and teach you how to be a better person and live a healthier life style. Once you get hooked you can get quiet obsessive about it. I have noticed, at least in myself and some of my friends, that these “healthy lifestyle techniques” tend to foster the belief that there are certain things about you that are deficient and need to be fixed. For every problem there is a solution, a pill, a meditation, a pressure point on the body, a smoothie or mantra… We have become so fixated on changing anything that’s considered negative or non-productive that we in turn nurture the belief within ourselves that we as we are, are not good enough. That is a very self-destructive and self-debilitating affirmation that ends up oozing from every pore, no matter how healthy and happy we seem from the outside!
Here is a radical thought: What if we just accepted ourselves just the way we are? Maybe the biggest change that you can make is to accept the seemingly deficient parts within you. Maybe before you scold yourself and frantically try to change your bad habit, physical appearance or personality trait you stop and ask why it is there in the first place or why you are judging it? I have fallen “prey” to many a self-help philosophy and have only recently come to this conclusion myself. After so many years of trying to change my type A personality and become less controlling I have realized that…hey…that’s just me. That is my personality. I am a strong, independent and determined woman. And yes I like to be in charge. There is nothing wrong with that. It feels quiet liberating to finally admit that to myself. After I had accepted this part in me I noticed how my personality took a turn for the better. I was able to express strength without being pushy. I took charge without judgement and I felt great being supported and admired for it. I realized that in the past it only turned to bitterness, anger, frustration and obsessive behavior because I was rejecting it. I was rejecting myself. I was judging it, making it out to be bad and as a result it turned on me. It was like an autoimmune disorder of the energetic kind. The system rejected itself and caused all kinds of malfunction and viruses.
What I am trying to say in a nutshell is why not try and practice acceptance instead of judgement. The retrograde has set the stage for us and the energies are conducive now for you to finally embrace even the oldest and most stubborn quirks and habits. Maybe you could start looking at them with innocent eyes and maybe, just maybe you will find that as a result it brings out only the best in them.